Sunday, February 28, 2010

A new land, a new dream...



Previously, I had written about a friend whose ideas differed from mine. Although we are friends, we think and view differently issues pertaining the world. Regardless of his response, I still respect, cherish, and value our friendship. Not a single part of me sees him differently after he told me how he truly felt about a citizen's responsibility to love every child as a mother would (analogy of Loeb). Instead of drawing us apart due to our different way of thinking, I would argue that it brought us closer. I was surprised at his response. I thought I knew him, yet he acted in a way I would not have foreseen! This is amazing because it opened my eyes and I realized the importance of hearing all arguments that people have pertaining certain issues. If we only listen to what we want to hear, it diminishes our power to think outside the box. It is actually insulting I believe, and we are doing it to ourselves. The fact that I thought all my friends shared my same thoughts was extremely foolish. Only now I see the hidden power of diversity and how strongly influenced we can be by it.


Since I was 12, I have been exposed to a world I truly believed I could not fit into. Back in Peru, I was a straight A's student, good athlete and well spoken. When I came to the United States my plane seemed to have landed in an unknown place. There were different rules to everything. Streets, local markets, neighborhoods, parks were different. At school all the kids had grown up knowing their childhood friends that the need of new, different looking acquaintances was not an option. On top of that of course was the fact that I did not speak English. Even my peculiar "Good Morning" was seen as too formal and funny spoken. Fitting in was not an option anymore, it was a must. In order to survive in this enormous society, I had to learn new set of rules, new costumes, and of course a new language. It took me a couple of years to not be extremely self conscious of speaking in a large group of people, however once in a while I still feel anxiety whenever I have to speak. Although I have been living in this marvelous place for almost seven years, I cannot help but to feel like an outsider at times, it is a feeling that I believe will be with me until the day I must depart. However, there are times were I truly feel like I belong to this country and that I am too, an American. The gratefulness I feel towards this place that has given me so much is indescribable. In return, I feel the necessity to serve my community to its every need. This is what I would do if I was back in Peru, give back to the soil that has accepted me and my family as new members of society, and has been my support, home, fortress and dreams.

4 comments:

  1. Alicia, i read your previous blog about your friend but i don't recall commenting on it. I'm sorry.

    I did enjoy his analogy because it was different and it actually made sense; but i did not agree with him and thats ok. We all have different points of view and it's nice to hear something different than our own thoughts. I'm glad that this difference of opinion didn't harm your friendship. I respect how open you are to new ideas.

    I wish we get a chance to talk because we share a lot of things in common, i am not originally from this country either and i see where you are coming from. I think you are a marvelous person for serving a country that you weren't born into, but you still feel the need of giving back because it has given you so much. BRAVO.We need more people like you.

    :)

    Laly

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  3. Hey Alicia,
    I can really relate to your blog. I am not from another country, but when I moved to Phoenix it felt like it. I moved from a very small farming community, my class had maybe 45 kids, but I understand the need to fit in. I was even made fun of for how I spoke. =) It was hard adjusting, but it made me a stronger person as I am sure it has made you!
    You are a very brave person and very insightful. Not very many people can realize and understand diversity. I am so glad that I have gotten to meet you and know a little bit about you.

    Lindsay

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  4. Alicia you embody the hope that so many immigrants long for! The very real dream of a place of opportunity, if you work hard, anything is possible. I am so glad that through all of your experience, you have learned to give back what you can, to make your community a better place. I am so glad to know you Miss Alicia! Thank you for sharing!

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