similar differences

"The more we listen to those whose experiences and perspectives are unfamiliar, the more we realize what draws us together."

Loeb meant we learn more about ourselves and our beliefs when we hear more viewpoints. If we are always surrounded by the same beliefs, we cannot truly become ourselves; but by allowing conflicting views in our lives we will either believe our opinions more or we realize we were wrong. In the book, Loeb says, "mor likely we are to believe that everyone shares our knowledge and assumptions, and that can be dangerous too."

In "Unlike Allies" Republicans are said to be most bully and greed." Then it goes on to say among the conservative party a few have stayed resistant to being hired guns to the wealthy and powerful. Orrin Hatch was able to gain the help of Ted Kennedy and Tom Harkins to raise money for children's health care; even though, even though he is against tobacco.

In my years of volunteering at Sahuaro Elementary school, I have worked with both fellow activist and Democrats, as well as Republicans and people who don't feel they should even vote yet. We can still work together to raise money for the school and provide the children with things they would normally not experience. These people have become good family friends who I can support and depend on.

Careful Listening Transforms

No one man knows it all, and no one man makes it all, its all about collective efforts. We all learn from each other to make a difference. We also learn from our environment, our society and others' experiences to make that required change. Knowledge can be best transferred through the power listening; a student listens to his teacher so as to acquire knowledge. A little pupil learns how to use the bathroom via listening to its owners' instructions. A little child learns how to speak by listening to the sounds of the words of those around him. The power of listening can never be overemphasized as it is a powerfully tool for chain transformation of knowledge, ideas, and resources.
Everyone is important and can be an element of positive change. You can't tell the minds' constructions of the young homeless man from his face or appearance until you listen to him. You can't know what others are going through until you listen to them. Listening has transformed me in so many ways of my life to make me conform to social change. Listening has helped resurrect my hope in so many ways; even though I was going through a very though time, it gave me the courage to know that so many passed through rougher road and were able to make it through, as such I can also make it through. Just as Loeb would say, "we can stay fresh by listening to others clearly and reaching out to them," just as we have to understand every one from their own perspective. Being open to changing our minds and listen to each other is the best way to create a just world. Remember, No one man knows it all, and no one man makes it all, it's all about collective efforts, so let's listen to learn from each other.

Story of my Life

I absolutely loved chapter 9 because of how well it corrolates to my life. My dad use to always tell me that if I wanted to see my future, I could simply look at my friends. I've lived by that saying and have always tried to fill my future with promise and diversity. I know that I myself can't perceive every perspective to a situation no matter how hard I try. Yet with the help of friends; new viewpoints, ideas, and opinions open up. All throughout this reading I kept thinking about my workout group. Those guys are definitly my closest friends, and just the other day I was telling them how each of them expanded my ideas, skills, and self. They had been talking about how I had gotten us all together to start bettering ourselves in the gym, but they didn't seem to realize how much they had help me over the same time. My friend Riley, the one who assisted the gentleman with the ride in my earlier post, has always been my music mentor. While introducing me to new bands, genres, and sounds, he's also really helped me improve my guitar and piano. He also was my study partner for Chemistry and I can easily say I would've gotten a much lower grade than a B without him. He's also, I'm so sad to say, extremely democratic. But even our hottest debates have never interfeared with our friendship and have always strengthened or made me question my own ideas, in a positive manner. My friend CJ has always been our social guy. With being so great with the ladies, always being the guy you can always trust, it's hard to describe CJ as shy. While I'm pretty talkitive myself, CJ's made it so I can't shut my mouth, and given me a great friend. My friend Fal keeps me pumped for school and the gym with all of his crazy know hows. By just looking at these three awsome friends and the impact they've made on my life, and how they have expanded my limits, its easy to see how the same could apply to community service groups. Just from the time I've been going, my group leader Jacob has made a huge difference in my life, by driving and supporting me to participate in this program and its efforts.

Conflict of Views: For the better/ Response chapter 9

I think its very important for people from all walks of life to be involved in social action issues, because they effect all of us and everyone has something to bring to the table. Obviously everyone has common and different beliefs, but we are all human and all for the most part different. Although it’s important to involve many people and or groups when it comes to social action. These differences provide perspective, different views and information to your goal or action.

If you approach a problem, or take on a social issue with only your view, you approach it very narrow minded and weak. You do not have a reference point or an idea of what you fight against. When you know different views and collaborate with them, your position overall becomes strong and your social action stronger.

Sometimes to accomplish goals and provide a strong case or position on a social issue we must bad together. Unlikely Allies, and agendas changed all in the name of one common goal.

This is shown through C.P. Ellis a former Ku Klux Klan member who challenged his own beliefs and eventually work hand in hand with African Americans to reach a common goal and by exposure within black society and with working with blacks changed his perspective for the better.

We are one world, and united we stand strong. Coming together as one to fight the real problems that our society faces, that is what really is cherished.

Nathaniel Chapman

We all have ideas about how the world should be...

I think that when Loeb states, “The more we listen to those whose experiences and perspectives are unfamiliar, the more we realize what draws us together,” he means that there is a commonality in every human being whether it seems like it or not. Someone may outwardly speak for a belief they have that opposes to one of your own, but this person has also led a very different life than you have. Just because they believe something different does not necessarily make them a bad person. The real misfortune is when people are too glued to their own ideas that they refuse to consider another’s point of view.

I think that when people with opposing viewpoints talk things out, that if they really listen to each other they can find respect for both views—or at least learn something important from one another. While one perspective may be seemingly flawless, it is virtually a waste if not talked about openly with those who may disagree. Any view that excludes others who do not automatically concur is on its way to becoming a clique, and this will ultimately prevent any substantial progress to be made.

What ‘draws us together’ is the fact that we all have ideas about how the world should be. Without speaking openly about these ideas, the progress we make will be much slower. When we consider everyone as an important person with ideas that are worth being heard, there is a snowball effect of this feeling of acceptance. This sort of supportive environment allows people with different views to come together and to ultimately make the world a better place. I think this is what we all truly want.

One example of Loeb’s idea is the story of Julia Devin affiliating herself with the military. The book says that all of her fellow activists belonging to Central American peace were appalled at the fact that Julia even gave these people the time of day. But Julia realized that, even though she did not agree with the ideals of many people belonging to the military, her mission would never be accomplished unless she collaborated with them.

`Honestly, I can compare this on a much smaller scale to my relationship with my parents. We tend to disagree on every little thing imaginable, even to this day. During my teenage years I tried to completely ignore them because I didn’t like the way they handled most situations within the household. As you could imagine, this got me absolutely nowhere. Once I realized that the only way either of us was going to get anywhere is if we worked together and had respect for each other, things got so much easier. Though I still don’t agree with many of their ideals, we continue to work together to support each other in what we are trying to do. I think this sort of thing happens on much larger scales, such as Julia’s story, and as well as many others.

"Strange Bedfellows make interesting kids."

There are time when people from different backgrounds and different opinions, come together for the common good. When human rights lawyer Julia Devin, Quaker physician Charlie Clements and the Seattle congressmen Jim McDermott met in to negotiate an agreement with El Salvador for medical neutrality, they had to work with the U.S. generals who had murdered thousands of people. Ideally, these were not the people that Devin, Clements and McDermott wanted to be working along side. Although it was hard for them to be around people who did such horrible things, Julia tried to focus on the fact that everyone has a good side and she "kept coming back to the sense that we had to try, and the possibility that this might help end the war." Julia also notes that by having these generals be involved in the peace process, they began to build a connection on other issues. In the end these two parties that seemed to have nothing in common got together and was a "a key building block in finally achieving peace in El Salvador."

I believe that surrounding ourselves with people who have had different experiences and different opinions the our own is vital to our growth as human beings. What will we learn if we just hang around people who come from the same background and think the same way that we do? While I may not agree with your opinion that doesn't mean I'm going to close my ears and ignore what you have to say. I might come to see the issue in a different light or at least better understand the your side. Varying experiences and ideas expand our view of the world and help us discover who we are and what we believe. In my opinion life would be very boring if everyone agree about EVERYTHING and what would we have to talk about.

Getting involved with SLICE has exposed me to people that come from various background and opinions but what we all share is our goal of making the world a better place. The way in which we go about achieving this goal might differ but in the end all that matters in that we accomplish what we've set out to do.

Keep an Open Mind

I think that when Loeb says, “The more we listen to those whose experiences and perspectives are unfamiliar, the more we realize what draws us together.” he is talking about how we realize that we are not too different from others that we once thought we shared nothing in common with. I liked the story he included the story about the two clashing organizations worked together to solve a problem that would affect all of them. Both groups worked together to fight against the construction of the garbage incinerator even after all of their previous arguments. I think that the story is a great example of how even if we strongly oppose someone else’s views, it doesn’t mean that you can not work together to reach a common goal. I think that in general we need to be more accepting of people’s views and opinions, even if you do not agree with them. It’s important to have an open mind and to see the reasoning behind other people’s point of view and to respect their opinions. Just because you may disagree on one matter doesn’t mean that you do not share anything in common at all. If you are going to come together as a community and effectively address an issue, you must put all other issues and petty disagreements aside.

In our diverse community, I think most of us communicate and interact with people who share different views and experiences than ourselves pretty often. I personally try to listen to rather than block out views that clash with my own. I like to hear why people think the way they do, and a lot of times interesting conversations can come from your disagreements. As long as you don’t get into a fight and start bashing each other you can gain insight from either the other person’s view or your own. When you listen to people who live in different situations and have different experiences than your own, it helps you try to see things from a different perspective. The more you talk to different people and hear about their lives, the greater your overall perception becomes.

One Half of you loves.

"One Half of you loves, and the Other Half of you at times hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever thing the Medicine has taught us here is this: One Half of you must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself apart. It is the same with the Other Half of any People who live together. But remember! Both Halves must try to understand.

--Seven Arrows

Hyemeyohsts Storm

This quote explains the meaning of what Loeb is trying to say. He means that you may see each other tearing apart the surface value or assumptions you may have of others. However, when you decide to show love, and listen miraculous things will happen. You will grow from their lives and you will be able to see the depth in that person. Understanding is the key. Through others stories and values we grow wiser. Let the side the LOVES prevail.

The characters that I saw working together that impacted me the most was the Atheist and the Christians. I feel that what you believe spiritually is so embedded in you that it would seem to be the hardest to let go and work with someone of the opposite belief. I know that Jesus loves everyone and that He would come together and work with someone for a great cause even if they are Atheist. I think that is the perfect example of how we should except others. We may not believe what they believe, but that is their choice. Do not let it get in the way of getting to know a great person. You need to be open to others ways of life, but never forget who you are and where you stand. That is how I have lived, it is not always easy and I have found myself not being the one who listens, and just judges. However, when we do listen we are loving and learning.

Being burned out was a regular thing for me in High School. I was involved with everything, I was especially involved with Student Government. I found that by my Junior year, yeah I had had a good time but I never got to stop and enjoy it. I would be in meltdowns constantly because I was so overwhelmed and I hadn't hung out with friends for a long time. Then the summer of Junior year I thought about quitting Student Government for my Senior year of High School. My Mom told me that I should not quit, and that I loved it. It was then that I realized there has to be balance. I do not have to do everything on my own. I have to take time for myself as well. So I listened to my Mom, did Student Government my Senior year and loved it. I finally could BREATHE! You have to have an enriching personal life before you can truly enrich others lives.

The World Through Her Eyes

Like any other person in today's day and age, I know the importance of community service and giving back to others. However, I wasn't always as open to community service. When I was younger, my class used to go on field trips to the local homeless shelter. I never really enjoyed these field trips because it really wasnt any fun for an eleven year old. We had to work and be around older homeless people who smelled a little funny (I was a child, remember). I would have much rather been in a nice air conditioned classroom sitting down, but in this situation, I had to choice.

On this particular day that we went, there was a girl our age there with her mother. She was the prettiest girl I had ever seen, but she was homeless, so she wasn't very clean and looked very hungry. I approached her with my lunch bag. She was very shy. I told her that she could have it and she smiled the biggest, prettiest smile I had ever seen. We started to talk as she ate my lunch in a hurry. She told me about how her dad had left her and her mother and they had no place to stay because her mother didn't work. She talked forever about how she missed school and her friends. When I asked her what school she went to, she told me Hartman Elementary. I went to Hartman too. After minutes of collaborating stories, I realized that this girl and I had once been in the same class a few years ago. We had never really spoken to each other because we had nothing in common, but there we were, chatting like long lost friends.

After chatting with the girl a little more, she shared some of the problems that her family had been facing since her father left. She was very sad.

Before we knew it, it was time for me to go back to school with my class. I could tell that she didn't want me to leave and that she really enjoyed my company. I enjoyed her company too, that's why every other month, when my class visited this shelter, I looked for her and prayed for her family daily. She showed me a whole new perspective on life and how important it is to value your blessings.

I saw this girl everyday at school a couple of years before and never thought of developing a relationship with her. Now, to this day, I am still friends with this girl.

Eventually the homeless girl and family pulled themselves up from poverty and are doing pretty well. The homeless girl is now in her first year of college. We don't talk as often as we used to because I moved to Arizona, but we still keep in touch.

This story is proof that you don't always have to go out and research different perspectives and experiences, sometimes there right under your nose, or in my case, right next to my desk.

Burned Out: Learning to Cope

Sounds like the story of my life, always being burned out and unable to find time to do even the most important of things. When do I eat? When do I sleep? And I always tell myself, "If only I had time." Personally, I can't say I've ever been burned out while participating in some sort of social change or cause, but I can say that on numerous occasions, I've been overworked and overloaded to the point of near meltdown.

In high school, I was popular. Probably because I tried to be nice and made friends with everyone. I made the varsity basketball team as a freshmen, was a member of the literary club, prom committee, student government, and was President of the National Honor Society. Everything was perfect, and on the exterior one couldn't see that anything was wrong. Internally, I was being smothered. It was work, work, work all the time. Our basketball trips were long and inconvenient, meaning we were often dismissed from school early, which meant less time in class and more time on the bus trying to concentrate amidst the chatter and music of 25 school girls. I was constantly making meeting agenda's and scheduling community service projects for NHS. With a course load consisting of honor's and AP classes also, my life was hectic.

I lost it, and broke down.

I wasn't happy. I had no fun. I didn't have time to sleep. I didn't have time to eat.

From that moment forward, I've had to step back and analyze the things and people around me. If I do that, how will it benefit me? If I do this, will it make things easier? I've learned to balance myself. Balance is key to making everything run smoothly, and is the only way to not burn yourself out. On a very personal level, I can say that more recently I've decided not to pursue several school activities with fear that I will be 'burnt out' and overloaded with things and people I can't handle. I am trying, however, to get more involved and become who I once was.

Balancing large committments and our personal lives? Juggle and prioritize. It makes things interesting, while still allowing structure and functionability. And to prevent becoming burnt out? Focus on the big picture and remember why you're involved in the activity or organization in the first place. It can make the difference between a comeback and a meltdown.

Our Differences Can Bring Us Together

Sometimes it is not our culture or the way we were raised that brings us together. Sometimes it is simply the experiences we endure or the groups we get involved with. Every opportunity in life is a chance to make an important change. Listening to the life stories of others can give each and every one of us a chance to broaden our horizons. Being involved with organizations and programs that have a strong emphasis on looking past others’ differences and working together towards a greater good has really helped me out tremendously.

The story that stuck with me the most from the book was the one about the United Jewish Organization, Puerto Ricans, and Dominicans working together as they never had before to benefit their children. They had to join forces to work for a common goal of improving their community so that it would be a safer and healthier environment for everyone. The fact that they overcame their differences so that they could become the El Puente organization and enforce positive changes for the sake of their community is amazing.


One event in particular that stands out in my mind is when I was in middle school and I went on a “Minitown” retreat. I had just moved to Arizona and I didn’t really know many people at my school. I remember the bus ride to the camp site was pretty quiet and no one really socialized much. As soon as we got there, we were given our room assignments and we rushed off to our cabins. Meeting my temporary roommates and getting to talk to them for a little helped to put my nervous mind at ease. When we were doing all the activities they had planned for us, I really got to know everyone there. I had no idea all of the different backgrounds and beliefs that people could have and I was surprised at just how much we did all have in common. All of these individuals that I had come into contact with were so unique and all had something special to bring to the table. By learning about the lifestyles and history of those I had met, I was able to ponder about my own life and reflect on what things I would like to possible fix. All of these individuals helped me to gain a new perspective on life and to learn that everyone deserves a chance, not matter how different they may seem. We all learned to work together to accomplish tasks set out before us and we all ended up growing very close. The bonds we had made during our experience there have stuck with us for years and it is a wonderful feeling to know that people can be brought together without having anything visibly in common. That experience taught me that through positive, open-minded communication, I could make life-changing differences. To truly help others, you must first work on yourself and by connecting with people and really lending that open ear, the possibilities are endless.

Running on E

In my life I have done many volunteer projects, most of them were short term however. The last really big long term volunter project I did lasted over a year. I would babysit once sometimes twice a week for a family in my church. The family had four kids the oldest in kindergarten the youngest wasn't a year old. The days I was there I would either be doing housework for the childrens mother who had lupus and was not able to do everything she needed to. Sometimes I was babysitting four kids by myself. This was probably the hardest thing I have ever done, I was exhausted everytime I went home. By the time that project was over I never wanted to babysit again, I was so sick of it. It took me forever to even say yes when someone asked me to watch thier kids. It wasn't that I didn't love the kids, because I did and I still do, but I was just so done with it.
It was hard trying to get past that. I had to remember why I did the service in the first place; I did it because I love to help people. I had to go back to that place where I wanted to help people again. I wasn't afraid of burnout because honestly I didn't know what it was. I had never experienced it before, but in this case ignorance was not bliss. I now know what to expect and I try not to let my self get burned out by splitting my time up. I do not focus all of my energy on one thing. I through something I enjoy in to keep things interesting, for me that is photography. I can take pictures of the work I am doing and of all the friends I make doing it. By keeping my work fun I keep myself from being spread to thin and burned out.

Similar Differences

"The more we listen to those whose experiences and perspectives are unfamiliar, the more we realize what draws us together."

Loeb meant we learn more about ourselves and our beliefs when we hear more viewpoints. If we are always surrounded by the same beliefs, we cannot truly become ourselves; but by allowing conflicting views in our lives we will either believe our opinions more or we realize we were wrong. In the book, Loeb says, "more likely we are to believe that everyone shares our knowledge and assumptions, and that can be dangerous too."

"In "Unlike Allies" Republicans are said to be most bully and greed." Then it goes on to say among the conservative party a few have stayed resistant to being hired guns to the wealthy and powerful. Orrin Hatch was able to gain the help of Ted Kennedy and Tom Harkins to raise money for children's health care; even though, even though he is against tobacco.

In my years of volunteering at Sahuaro Elementary school, I have worked with both fellow activist and Democrats, as well as Republicans and people who don't feel they should even vote yet. We can still work together to raise money for the school and provide the children with things they would normally not experience. These people have become good family friends who I can support and depend on.

Beat Burnout!

I have not actually felt burntout while involved in community service, quite possibly because I haven't been involved in community service for an extended period of time. The most significant cases of burnout that I can recall are all related to school. It is not uncommon for me to wind up feeling like I have so much homework that it will never all get done. Sometimes this is my own fault from procrastinating or poor time management but other times it is from simply having too many things going on at once. To be quite honest, I'm feeling a bit burntout as I write this blog, but a large factor in that is being sick these past few days. Que coughing fit.

I can't say that fear of burnout has made me avoid social interaction, however burnout itself has pushed me into solitude while I struggle to catch up. I would think that the best way to balance larger social commitments would be to look at schedules over a week or perhaps even a month and determine what time you can devote to those commitments and when those times are. Of course personal lives are also very important to our well being and so some designated chunk of time should be allowed for relaxation and socializing with close friends and family.

Steve Kaczmarski said "The No. 1 cause of burnout is doing the same thing over and over again and not seeing results. You need to do something different,..." I feel that if this is true then perhaps the method I mentioned above for balancing commitments and personal lives wouldn't be the best. It could still be effective, I believe, if some of the order was changed up every now and then. Perhaps a little spontaneity could make a world of difference.

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Seeking out people whose points of view differ from our own keeps us open-minded to new problems, approaches, ideas, and solutions. I had a sociology professor once tell us that society can be prejudice against each other, but in a case of global disaster we would all come together as one. I believe this is what Loeb is referring in the quote "The more we listen to those whose experiences and perspectives are unfamiliar, the more we realize what draws us together." Just because we think differently does not mean we don't care about the same issues. I have to say that I'm very careful about exposing myself to others whose opinions differ from mine. I take into consideration the fact that it takes me sometime to think and come to accept an idea that is totally different from my perspective so why wouldn't another person feel the same way? I try to expose my ideas on a more approachable manner.  

"People have been known to achieve more as a result of working with others than against them." Dr. Allan Fromme

Loeb says "The more listen to those whose experiences and perspectives are unfamiliar, the more we realize what draws us together". I believe Loeb is telling us that we can find common ground and draw together for a positive cause with virtually anyone. There are basic problems that we- no matter our religious background or political party- can agree are destructive to society and work together to solve the issue. In essence, I think that when we listen to those who have ideas and beliefs that we are appalled at or disagree with- and are still able to find common ground and humanity within those people- then we see that we really are all partners in improving our society.

My favorite story in Chapter 9 was the one about C.P. Ellis who was an important Ku Klux Klan member but ended up not only developing a close friendship with a black women but also became an advocate for blacks and whites working together. This was accomplished when Ellis placed himself in uncomfortable situations where he had to work with those he strongly opposed; Then was Ellis able to see those he was fighting against were people just like him- with the same concerns and fears and problems.

Personally, I tend to avoid situations that might be uncomfortable and could possibly challenge my beliefs. I do occasionally venture out of my comfort zone, such as at school and work, but try not to take absolute stands on most things. I think this is because I fear might not defend or explain my stand on the issue well, and that could change peoples’ opinions of the solution I am supporting. I also cannot stand to have others dislike me, and I fear some of my views could offend those around me. I don’t think this is a very healthy attitude, as I am of the opinion that to truly grow as a person you must have your beliefs challenged. When the things you hold to are questioned then you have to decide why you believe the things you do, and whether they can stand up to the arguments and views from the other side.

I have had a big opportunity here in SLICE to grow more comfortable voicing my values and opinions among people who don’t always feel the same way. The last chapter discussion we had about values was very helpful to me, and I gained confidence from talking about differing values with the class. I hope to continue to put myself in situations where I can learn more from others and also learn more about myself.

Our strength lies in our differences

Loeb’s quote, “The more we listen to those whose experiences and perspectives are unfamiliar, the more we realize what draws us together,” is a vital lesson that many of us probably have a hard time following, including myself. We need to step out of our comfort zone and see that seeking out and listening to other people, whose points of view may be different from our own, opens up a whole new door of opportunities. It exposes us to fresh new perspectives and ideas that we may have never thought of before. When we cut ourselves off from outside views and stay trapped in an isolated group of people who already agree with us, we are doing a disservice to our community and cause. We are missing out on opportunities for learning and growth, which could make all the difference in our success as a group.


An example from the book, that I think depicts this idea well, is the story about the Hasidic members of the United Jewish Organization and the Puerto Ricans and Dominicans that had long been at each others throats over many issues. They learned to overlook their differences when an issue was brought up that they shared common ground on. They came together to fight against Radiac and the building of an incinerator because they feared for the health of their children. Even though they had never worked with each other before they were able to unite for a common goal and ending up succeeding in their purpose. I think that forming such a diverse group like this made them stronger than they could have ever been as separate groups. It created a sense of balance in the group where everyone had something different to offer and developed unique ideas that may not have been realized if they had not worked together.

To be honest, before college I don’t think I was hardly ever in situations where I was exposed to people so very different than myself. Going to a private, Christian grade school and high school I was surrounded by people who shared very similar morals and values to my own, for most of my life. I am very happy that I decided to go to a school like GCC because I am constantly surrounded by people with new perspectives and it is refreshing. I’ve learned so much about myself and others in these last two years than I probably have in my entire life. In every class I have taken so far, I’ve been exposed to different people with unique stories that teach me something new. I think it’s great how you can be in a room with complete strangers yet feel comfortable enough to share so many personal stories and thoughts with each other. When sharing a little piece of yourself with someone else it allows them to see a little bit of who you are and not judge you by your cover. Through this you might find out you have more in common with each other than you thought.

Chain Reaction

Rachel Scott has changed my life.

She sadly lost her life during the Columbine shooting on April 20, 1999 in Littleton, Colorado. Not until a few weeks after her death, did her parents find the life changing essay that spearheaded the nationwide organization called Rachel's Challenge. In this essay she wrote, "I have this theory, if one person would go out of their way to show compassion, then it will start a chain reaction of the same. People will never know how far a little kindness can go."

I first heard Rachel Scott's story during my leadership as the president of Club Impact in high school. Club Impact focused on making a change within the student body on campus. She motivated me to start with the small steps within the heart, not the body or mind. It was there, in the heart, that lives would be changed and people would show kindness for others. I decided that during the hustle and bustle of exams, homework deadlines, and standardized tests we needed to make a change immediately.

In memory and honor of Rachel's Challenge, Club Impact sold strips of construction paper to students. It was their job to write on the piece of paper one person who motivated them to keep pushing to show kindness. Once that was done, multiple leaders of the club rolled the strips of paper into circles and then attached them together. The randomness of colors, thoughts, and inspirational words created a beautiful chain which was hung in the main hallway. Each student was then able to see daily that they now are a link in the chain of kindness, just as Rachel had dreamed about.

I never lost my compassion and drive for this social cause. Kindness is instilled within each human being and needs to be shown at all times, so I involve myself in organizations that I believe in. When my heart is encrusted with the same mission statement, I find it impossible to burnout.

Fun Forrest Run, if that what you must do to free your mind

I have never personally been burned out doing social activities, but I have been burned out doing sports. I remember playing football and there would be three weeks left in the season and all of the players could think about was the upcoming basketball season. I see the same looks on the kids faces today when I coach football. That why it is important to change practice around a bit or add a fun game at the end. The routine is what burns you out.

Most of the social things I do are short term projects. But I know people in my family who watched Lou Dobbs everyday for over a year straight talking about the illegal immigrant problem and complain about it. Then they got tried of hearing the same thing over and over again. I don't want to feel as passionate about an issue and get burned out by it. But I imagine it just like football you're gone for a couple of months and you want to hit somebody again. People have to find the balance that works for them. Family always comes first I not missing a kids baseball game to stay extra hours for the cause. But I can set aside the time to be active in my community and try to get my family and friend involved. If I can't get them to buy into my issue how am I going to get my neighbor too. Some things that the chapter brought up was to find the balance. You can't go all out on one thing 24/7, everybody needs some personal time to their self. Reading, watching a movie or even going on vacation were some examples. As much as we love a daily routine and little change is always necessary.

The whole time I read the chapter all I could think about was Jenny. The talking of getting burned out on Vietnam and other progressive causes was the something Jenny did until she came home to Greenbow, Alabama. Life is like a box of chocolate you never know what you're gonna get.

Look Around You

I really liked Loeb quote and I think he meant the more we have a variety of ideas and beliefs, the more experience we have. To be able to listen to different prospective is like lightening a light inside a dark room. You could walk in the dark and feel the objects around you, but it would make it much easier if you turned the light on! We have to listen and benefit of what information we are listening to and try to analysis it and that would make us think critically of what kind of world we are exposed to.

The story that interested me was about when Hazel was part of the environment movement. Hazel’s friend pointed out to Hazel a small brown bird pecking and eating as it made its way to the tree. Hazel saw the bird working hard for his living, for his food, just like her. The bird always goes up the tree and never down, continuing his lifestyle without complaining! What beautiful about this story is that Hazel developed a new thought that hasn’t been on her mind before. She compared her life to nature. This action inspired her to do and work more and become the secretary of Audubon’s Seattle. I now see that even small things or creatures that are around us teach us a new lesson in life.

To me, living in the United States would be one of the major factors to expose to different people and learn from them. As everyone knows I have a different culture and tradition from here, United States. A simple example would be that the high schools in Iraq have separated boys from girls where each one would have individual high school, unlike here. So, at first this was hard to get along with and hard to become comfortable around. But, I got used to it. We have saying said, “Whoever lived with a nation for more than forty days, becomes one of them.” So, as days went, I started to think that separating boys from girls is wrong because it might empower segregation thoughts toward women. However, people over there would oppose my point of view and I have to respect their opinion. From what I know, I am changing every day by using all the unfamiliar prospective to shape me into becoming a better person.

Every day we learn a new thing no matter how old we are or how much experience we have. I feel that chapter nine has the whole idea of our class, slice: service, learn, inspire, change, and educate. Chapter nine explains about service and how important to be involve because we would learn to speak in public. It also inspires us to accept other people’s opinion in order to widen our thoughts into the big circle and to have knowledge about the world. It would help us interact with the person sitting next to us and live today and hope for tomorrow to come. It would change our expectations into positive ones and to look forward for life adventure and new experiences that we are going to learn the next day.

Don't Miss Out

LETS TALK

Chapter nine was very enlightening, it made me see some of our flaws (as volunteers). If you want change you can’t expect to see that by talking to people that share your same point of view. You have to communicate to others the issues that are affecting our surroundings; even if u feel unprepared and incompetent you should take the risk to extend yourself. We as volunteers forget that others see what we do as something foreign and this is why we should take the time to let them know exactly what we are doing. A bad example of communicating is saying “I’m part of a group named SLICE” and leaving it at that. This just leaves them with uncertainties a better example would be showing them pictures of the site that you work at, the website, this blog…this grabs their attention. If we don’t show people what SLICE is really about they won’t be interested and they won’t volunteer and we would have made no difference in their lives.

DONT MISS OUT

Lets face it, when you don’t get involved you are missing out. No one should feel empty and it doesn’t matter what you look like, how old you are or what language you speak, everyone brings something to the table. In the chapter they shared a story about how a coalition fought a proposed garbage incinerator. These people were completely different, they were even different races, they never agreed on anything until it was affecting both of them and the well being of their children. They worked together shared opinions and ideas; the end result was winning the case. Coming together brings more energy and with that more power.

THE GOOD RESIDENT

Lets open up a little and speak up! I did that this week; it made me feel free and comfortable with who I am and where I come from. A very dear close friend of mine decided to share how she felt about Sheriff Joe Arpaio by saying that she doesn’t like how people criticize him for doing his job “right”. Her and I do not share the same opinion, but this is because we are two different people and we come from different backgrounds. She is an American citizen and I have a resident card. She is Caucasian and I am Hispanic. We are similar in something though, she loves America and I love America. I decided to write her an email explaining to her my thoughts on our sheriff and a link with some information on how he works. I believe that we all have the right to our own opinions and even if we don’t agree we should still be friends but its always better to communicate how we feel.

I honestly don’t think I would be so open about my feelings if it wasn’t for these past 2 months in this great class. I know we all say it but I do feel like I have stepped out of my comfort zone and it is thanks to SLICE.

There's no point in crying over spilled milk.

I have been burned out in the past by social causes! One specific case was about a year ago during Invisible Children's "The Rescue," where several hundred people gathered at ASU to raise awareness of what's going on in Northern Uganda. Joseph Kony, a radical tyrant and criminal to humanity, has been kidnapping Ugandan children and forcing them to be child soldiers in his gorilla army.
At first I thought that the event was gonna be like a huge party, but I was definitely wrong. Immediately after arriving I was put to work setting up stations. It was a beautiful warm sunny day thankfully and after setting up it was time to start the march down Mill Ave. Directing individuals to the site required us to run ahead of the pack, back and forth, and make sure that the traffic was clear. After the march, it was time to help with registration. So, after a full day of marching and setting up we were still required to stay on-site until we raised enough attention from the media. Night came, I was exhausted, and I had wondered what I got myself into. Luckily our media sponsors showed up and we were faced with staying the night with everyone else, or going home. I was burned out, and I went home.
Now that I am in SLICE 2010, I am becoming more prepared and organized for social service. This is a very demanding class and I am having to sacrifice work, friends, and some classwork. But luckily SLICE provides all of those things, a lot of fun work, really cool friends, and tons of classwork! I am trying not to be burned out because I know it's all gonna be worth it! I don't allow myself to say no sometimes which can be a problem, but sometimes saying no is better in the long run. Giving up some things and replacing them with others is my favorite part of life. Learning new things requires you to feel uncomfortable at times, and what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger! I'd say to prevent burnout, you must not let the bad experiences bring you down, or take you away from your life's goals.
Social life? What's that? I am so thankful I can afford to go to school because it provides me with a great social network, and can promote strong organizational skills. Just like the chapter suggests, in order to avoid burnout, you must leave time to grieve. My mom would say differently. That I should not slow down. There is nothing I can do to change what happen or what is going to happen, there is only planning and reacting to the situation. My dad would just say, "Man up! Stuff happens. Deal with it. You think that you have a hard life?" hahaha There's no use crying over spilled milk.

Open your hearts

People should seek out others opinions and points of views that are different than yourself, because it creates a learning experience than can be unforgettable, like in the story about the Good Atheist who brought people together to do a good cause. They all accepted eachothers' ideas and opinions to work for the greater good.

I volunteered to help my church in the nursery and Sunday school, I was fourteen and the youngest volunteer. I worked with other women in my church I hardly knew. One woman, Dannielle, was 34 who was married with 3 kids, and the other woman, Michelle, was almost 50 who had never been married. I worked with these women every week for around 5 months without really getting to know who they were as individuals. There was faculty party for all of the volunteers at the church, and that event is when I opened up to Dannielle and Michelle. Fourteen was a tough year for me. I was forced to leave my house, and on top of that I was dealing with teenage angst, rebellion, and searching for who I really was and who I want to be. Dannielle had stories about her daughters and trying to raise them was the most difficult thing in her life. I came to understand all the sacrifices my mother had made for me and I understood some of the decisions she had made, including kicking me out of her house. It took me about a year to talk to my mom again, but I did eventually apologize for all the trouble and pain I had caused her over the years.

Without opening up my heart and listening to Danielle's stories, I do not think I would ever have forgiven or spoke to my mother again. Now, I still work on Sunday mornings with Dannielle, Michelle, and a bunch more volunteers, and my relationship with my mother has grown tremendously. By listening to others' points of view, you see a different side of life besides your own. It gives another path for your mind to travel.

Snuffed Out

I have been burned out from being involved in social causes a couple of times in my history of volunteering. When I start volunteering it is because I'm am passionate about what I am getting involved in, this passion continues to grow as I see how I am helping move towards making someone's life or the world better. I throw myself into it, wanting to get more and more involved to help make a difference. But when it starts taking over my family and social life and interfering with school and work, its time for something to change. When this happens I just step back and prioritize. I'm am a very organized, scheduled, and systematic person, to say the least--I love routine. To balance my social involvement with the many other things in my life, I limit volunteering to one day a weekend. That way I can still spend time with my family and friends the other day of the weekend and I can do school work and still work during the week.

An example to help when you get burned out from the book that relates to my situation would be when Loeb says "Set boundaries, you can't let the cause consume your life." I think that this is essential to avoid emotional drainage. I am fairly good at setting boundaries and prioritizing, but I only do this after I am drained. I need to work on using it as a preventive measure.

Everyone has their own reasons for getting burned out and everyone has a different way to prevent it or re-spark their interests and get motivated. Its important to realize that you can over come it and learn from it. The old saying goes it gets worse before it gets better; and when you hit that bottom, having the strength to pick yourself up can reignite your fire to greater heights than it has ever been before.

Agreeing to Disagree

"May we never confuse honest dissent with disloyal subversion."- Dwight D. Eisenhower

If anyone has been keeping up with any of my previous posts, you will remember I am very much a supporter of free speech as a necessary part of any human culture. This means that sometimes we are going to have to listen to those we don't agree with. We may not like it, we may try to avoid it, but it has to happen. To listen to another persons opinion is the only way one can grow and gain wisdom not available to us in our own life. To close out other people is to be limited, as you only see things from one perspective, and you won't ever know the whole story, or what was going on behind the scenes.
If four different people standing on the four street corners of the same intersection watch the exact same car accident at the same time, They will most likely describe four completely different car accidents. It isn't until later that the different stories must come together and looked at logically in order to reach a consensus on what really happened. Governments. industries, and other organizations are often set up in using the same strategy. We have two or more people with equal power, not always agreeing with each other, working together to make a decision on what to do. In this way we better account for all points of view, even those that don't agree with our ideas.
I was particularly inspired by the "Good Atheist" Loeb discusses, Hazel White. She was an atheist back in the 20's and 30's, when religion was a big part of every day society, and not being religious could have adverse side effects. Through her childhood she saw and was inspired by the difficult situation people around her were in, yet how they could still show compassion. She would later go on to join and organize several social movements. Her actions were particularly inspiring because she wasn't doing good just so she could please god and get into heaven herself, as I've sometimes seen as the motivation for a few religious people. Instead she was doing good for the sake of doing good. But she was always willing to accept others views and was able to bring together many people to help with a cause that might not have otherwise.

Wax Candles do burn out

but electric candles just need to be plugged in and its good to go.

I always wanted to be the light in the darkness for eveyone. Overdoing is what i do best. It doesnt help that im a procrastinator. I feel the need to be constantly busy and if im not active and doing something, anything it feels like im wasting time.



This semester i am taking on 18 credit hours, 2 jobs, volunteering outside of slice, 2 science classes[physics & Chem] and clubs, friends, boyfriend, church and family. It seems like i never even have time to eat or sleep. My mom is always on my case about burning out before i even start out my life. She keeping telling me to slow down and relax, to take a break. But what she doesnt understand is that i need to get done. I have no desire to slow down, no matter how much i do i still feel like im not doing enough. I live in my own world and its going too slow and eveyone around me is fast forwarding. Its a scary place to be. I have given up social life compleletly, except for my best friend, and what ever time i do have i have countless amounts of homework to do.

All i want is to be successful and get done with as much as possible, as soon as possible. I know that the Major and the career that i am going for is going to take a lot of time and i dont want to be 34 and single and still in school. Im not saying that its bad or anything but it just isnt for me.

By the time i am done with everything i set out to do i want to make a name for myself, i want to make a difference. So far i dont feel burned out, at all. i feel like i have more energy that i can contain. As long as im active im like an energizer bunny but the minute i slow down and relax i cant do anything more.

I feel more one with myself by being active and being around others. I know that, I, Sheryl, as an individul have only grown with the interacting and the causes i have taken on. i know who i am, who i want to be ,and i could not ever have done this if i had not said yes to all the things that came my way.



One idea that Loeb talks about in the book that i really liked is the support group. I really think that it would be amazing to have people who are in the same situation, to come together and talk to each other. New ways to manage time and how to handle the stress are topics what can help eveyone.

Even a Minute

I have felt burned out by involvement many times. For some reason I always seem to push the limits of what I should commit myself to. This doesn't seem that bad until that one little thing that comes up to push that level of commitment over the edge. When something like that happens I tend to start over analyzing the things that I am involved in and commited to. My reaction is often to want to just pull back from things entirely, feeling like I am just one person no one will notice if I'm not involved anymore. I start to look at the results or where I want something to end up and feeling exhausted knowing the amount of work that still lays ahead to that goal and just want someone else to take over.

This was all especially true this semester when it has seemed more hectic and exhausting than usual with school, work, and many personal struggles. I have considered just backing out of some of the commitments that I have made. Then I stepped back and thought things through and realized how much I had already put into many of these things. I realized that I just needed to take a second for myself. I didn't really want to give anything up in fact I couldn't even decide what I would choose to give up.

This reaction seems pretty typical of people I have talked to. Unfortunately, we are often impulsive people and so often will act on those feelings of wanting to quit. We'll feel relief in the beginning for sure, but I think that we will regret the decisions later.

I think that one of the ideas in chapter 10 that makes perfect sense to me and that I will put into practice is setting boundaries. Taking care of personal issues and putting the time into making sure you have the energy and mindset to really be effective in the causes you care about. Understanding that our commitments come with a cost, but that we are also less effective if we allow ourselves to become burned out or find ourselves withdrawing completely. Often just stepping back to take a minute for yourself can make all the difference in the world, and allow you to stay fully vested in the causes we care so much about.

Keep feeding Your Fire!

I would say I was not burned out with the social issue, but definitely smoldering. As I said in class a few times, I became a valley Big Sister for Big Brothers Big Sisters. Before I was matched, I envisioned this incredible relationship that would instantly blossom into a long-lasting bond with this individual. I was beaming with excitement sharing with my peers and family members of the day I got to meet my little. Some of the people I told had a different opinion of the program. One of my “friends” explained how these kids were messed up and how I could be a positive influence, but nothing would come out of it. One of my family members expressed their concern for my safety. I remember my mom just being worried about me driving by myself where my little lived. All of these negative or concerning thoughts began to discourage my desire to be in the program and be involved in the positive changes of our community. When I was paired I began to see the ground crumble beneath me.

She was as tall as me, a sixteen year old, and pregnant.

Thoughts began to race through my head like “How could I help her?” As time went on I was sadden by her fortune of events that she had been through, but she showed me a different light. I’ve learned that others will always have a difference of opinion, but I could not let that hold me back from becoming a part of her life.

Our balance of larger commitments and our personal lives are completely out of whack! Most focus on their job (I am a part of this group) and lose any type of personal lives. No one eats at the dinner table, shares the positive stories, or has an empty day in their iphone calendar.
The book most shared political issues. It explains to focus on the progress that the issue has made versus squinting your eyes to see the end of the issue. Everyone can still recognize the “callousness, shortsightedness, and injustices.” So if you feel discouraged remind yourself why you have the viewpoint that you do. I thought a good example was the war in Iraq. A lot of American citizens were enraged at the government, but nothing was done about it and the war is still going on.

The good thing about a smoldering fire is that one little leaf can reignite the flames.

Stay on the Path

Sometimes as human beings we stay so much within ourselves and our thoughts that we don't branch out and explore new ideas. It's almost like an ethnocentric way of thinking. I think Loeb is trying to say that we all have something in common, even if we agree to disagree. We can always find some common ground and gain a new understanding of the situation. Ellis and Atwater found common ground when their kids were made fun of because their parents were working with the enemy(blacks and whites). Through that realization they began to unite black and white communities. None of my friends are Christians. A lot of the time I find myself getting lost into their lives because they look more exciting. They do things that I know I should not do and say things I now I should not say, yet I want so badly to be apart of them that I forget my conscience and dive in. We all do agree on one thing, there is a higher power in our lives. For me, that higher power means so much more than just acknowledging that something exists.

If you can call "See you at the Pole" a social cause, then yes. I remember being in 8th grade and everyone holding hands to pray around the flag pole. They had donuts for all the participants, but other people were eating them. This kid came up to me after the pray and said "See, I don't have to pray to eat a donut." I walked to class thinking, he doesn't have to pray to live or go to school or breathe, so he doesn't. The next year I was late to the event, and the year after I didn't go. I didn't feel like there was any point in going. When senior year came, I went to my last pole prayer. I'm really glad I did that. Fear of burnout doesn't hold me back. I keep pressing forward, because sometimes that is all you can do. Sometimes your personal life takes the back burner. We can't have our cake and eat it too. You have to stand your ground, accept the set back and move on. Think of it as one step back =two steps forward. You have to do what you have to do, and don't let anyone tell you anything different.

Come Together

I really liked the story Loeb told about the community in Brooklyn that came together because of the concern they had for their children. The book describes a community divided by groups, or cliques such as the United Jewish Organization (UJO) and El Puente, an organization comprised of Puerto Ricans and Dominicans. These two groups are described as having a long history of fights and mistrust over a multitude of issues - from housing to police protection. I found inspiring the way the group "came together for the health of their children" and fought to reduce the amount of toxic waste emissions being produced and polluting their neighborhoods. The efforts of these two very different groups putting their differences aside for a common goal yielded in further community involvement (the Italian, Poles, and other groups also joined in) and eventually the incinerator which was producing these toxic emissions was ended. This is what I think Loeb meant by "The more we listen to those whose experiences and perspectives are unfamiliar, we realize what draws us together." These different groups had unique experiences and thoughts to bring to the table, making their connections with one another and their argument against their common cause even stronger. The quote I thought put all this together was: "In our common air we have found our common ground."

The same concept that different people can come together for once goal is demonstrated in SLICE. Each individual in this class hold to different core values, beliefs and come from different backgrounds. We are all so different, but all so similar. The 30+ diverse people in this class share the common goal to better our community. Some of the people in my team are polar opposites, but can put their differences aside and come together to tutor a refugee. But more than just in SLICE, I think I am often in a situation were I'm expected to work with people who are very different from me... As I said, everyone is very different. But with that one common goal, that being changing the world or getting an "A" in calculus, we are drawn together for our greater purpose. Also, through uniting with those who lead different lives than us or share different ideas, we can learn from each other. I don't know all the answers. No one does. But sharing of knowledge, skills or abilities promotes growth.

When Life Gives You Lemons, Work With Them!

A very good friend of mine and I enjoy hiking mountains here in Phoenix. As expected, the view we have from the peaks is beautiful and enjoyable. Amidst the breathtaking scenery we muse about our mountain-top experience. The city and the people look so tiny from where we sit, and it makes us realize just how small we really are. The view gives us a better look at the "bigger picture" of the city and the places that we call our community. We can see just how little we actually are in the grand scheme of things. And as Loeb explains, our single voices or efforts may not amount to much or anything. From my mountain vantage point, I try to imagine all the cars that I see on the highway driving to the same place. I imagine that there is a huge accident or tragedy somewhere in the city. One person may not be able to do much to help, but If ALL those cars and people would converge on the scene to help in unison, then the problem would be alleviated easily and quickly.

The same concept described in my "wishful thinking scenario" should be applied to making a difference in any capacity. People of all walks and backgrounds and beliefs can band together. Although it may be hard to overcome cosmetic and frivolous differences, the chance to make change for the better should win alliance. This may require stepping out of comfort zones. Just as turtles cannot move when safely shut up in their protective shell, we cannot make change from the safety of our personal lives. We can only make progress if we risk exposure to the unknown and unsure aspects that accompany involvement.

As the saying goes, "An enemy of my enemy is a friend". Is it too much to ask people to put aside their quarrels in order to preserve and better the future of generations to come? I know it is hard for me, especially the aspect of risking rejection. But we (especially I) need to overcome fears like this. Our love for the community and those in it must transcend all fears. That is when we can make a difference. The greatest change-making gift we posses, the gift of combined compassion, is sitting at our fingertips waiting to be reached. Will we reach out and take hold of each other? Time will tell...or we can write that part of the story ourselves!

Divine Forgiveness

“To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness,”- Robert Muller philosopher and writer. This has probably been my most favorite chapter to read because I am somewhat of a history buff and felt strongly about the theme of the chapter. I like most people am guilty of the sin of over burdening myself and often feel that I am alone to carry my burden. I have 21 credits this semester, a full time job (even though I was hired as a part time employee), a family that needs me to spend time with them, a girl friend and friends, not to mention being involved with a magnitude of social causes. As much as I feel every task I add to my plate is a test to see how much one man can handle without killing myself, however, this does not come without fear. The fear of burnout is constantly on my mind and I am not one of those people who feel they get points just for showing up and that I need to give life my all at all times. This fear of burning myself out is what almost kept me from just about everything I am proud of this year, that I already had enough on my plate without getting involved. As Orlando Bloom said in The Kingdom of Heaven “what man is a man that does not try to make the world better.” I felt that I was hurting myself in not taking a chance on getting involved and those people I could meet and help.
The key to surviving this self inflicted torture is by finding a balance that allows you to stay sane. To do this, we must ensure that each segment of our lives receives its just amount of attention to keep us and those around us happy. As crazy as it may sound a good dosage of each area that over burdens us is actually healthy and everyone’s point of balance is different. One excerpt that I thought was especially meaningful to me was that about forgiving oneself. We spend so much time getting down on ourselves that we forget about our success and all the time we waste feeling this way. Many only make the situation worse by giving up or becoming depressed and often lose track of the path they were once on. Learning to forgive ourselves of our own mistakes is one of the most important abilities to have. If you cannot do this for yourself how can you expect someone else to give you such a gift. Sometimes to avoid burning oneself out, the solution is as simple as taking things easier on yourself, because even you can use a break every once in a while.

Melting Together To Form ONE

When Loeb stated; "The more we listen to those whose experiences and perspectives are unfamiliar, the more we realize what draws us together" I think he means that even though we are different in many ways we can all relate to things on a common ground. Hearing different perspectives can change our veiwpoints of the subject and also hearing diferent experiences can help us open our eyes to the world and relate to one another.
An example from the text of how people came together and made a positive change would have to be Common Air, Common Ground. The story took place in Brooklyn over a 15 year time span. There were plans to build a 55 story trash incinerator but leaders from near by neighborhoods built a coilition to stop the incinerator from ever breaking ground. The neighborhoods have been fueding for years and leob says "they have built up a tremendous and seemingly insurmoutable leagacy of mistrust." But putting their differences aside they came together for their children.
Living in the United States i am surrounded by situations where people have different lives and different ideas. I try to stay close to what i like but i do not mind getting to know my neighbors and stepping out of my compfort zone. A good example would be this class, i went to a christain private highschool where the majority of the poeple belived what i did and acted similar to me. Being in this class and going to a public school again opened my eyes to how many different cultures are in the United States and i should try to get to know everyone of them for who they are and what they stand for.

We're different...but we can still talk

After reading the chapter "Widening the Circle", I couldn't stop thinking about what really makes an individual grow. Isn't it disagreement that makes an individual think and reflect? Isn't discrepancy the thing that makes people settle for the best choices? Aren't differences what make individuals unique? Isn't divergence of opinion what makes a democracy?

Ever since we were teenagers, we battled many disagreements with parents. These disagreements didn't always finish in a nice peaceful conversation. Over time, however, we learned to value other people's opinion, listening and accepting the fact that our ideas may not always be the best option. Later in adulthood, we realize that our life partner is most often the person who gives us a different perspective on life, motivating us to think and reformulate our thoughts.

When we learn to apply the art of listening with an open mind, we are able to better evaluate new ideas in the work place as well as our personal lives. Moreover, we are able to use these ideas to influence different groups of people and advocate causes that we believe in. Loeb states "Whenever we reach across traditional boundaries, we create opportunities for learning and growth."

This is often easier said than done however. Sometimes we opt to be surrounded exclusively by others who think the same way we do because it is safer and more comfortable agree with the rest. There is little risk in simply saying, "that is the way I was raised".

Loeb tells the story of C.P. Ellis, a son of one of the members of the Ku Klux Klan who was taught by his father to target black people. Ellis rose to a high rank of Exalted Cyclops in the Klan and despite his entrenchment in the racist organization, began to have disagreements with Klan philosophy. Eventually Ellis began to look at African Americans beyond their "nigger" nicknames, worn out cloths and ragged shoes. He finally began to see them as human beings.

C.P. Ellis was emotionally touched by members of "the target group" when during an emotionally charged public meeting to address racial tensions, a black man called Ellis the most honest man in the meeting. Several meetings later, Ellis was nominated to co-chair the meeting and work closely with Ann Atwater, a black woman he hated "with purple passion". After "reluctantly working together", the two eventually became close friends and Ellis found new purpose as a union organizer, putting poor people (both black and white) together to fight employer abuses. Although Ellis and Atwater had nothing in common, they were willing to at least listen to each other, putting aside their differences when they could. As Loeb says, "The more we listen to those whose experiences and perspectives are unfamiliar, the more we realize what draws us together".

In my personal life, I try to remain open to the benefits of interactions with people around me, whether it be the clash of opinions between different political viewpoints or religions, I always find something new and valuable to gain from the experience. That is one of the reasons I enjoy being part of SLICE, having the ability to discuss emotionally charged issues in an open forum.

I really like the thoughts of Henry Ford, who said.....

"If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person's angle as well as from your own."